Respect for the Opposite Gender

A lack of respect for the opposite gender is one of the reasons some heterosexual relationships are doomed. Both men and women bloom and grow in a relationship where they are treated with respect. One of the ingredients that comprise true love is respect; the others would be patience, understanding, and honesty.

Respect For Public and School Property

Troubled teens usually reach for a spray can before they would reach out for help. They take their anger and frustration out on public property in a statement that dares and defies the community. This may be seen as an attempt to disrupt what they believe to be a harmonious society that treats them as unwanted menaces and appears to have what they lack.

Teach Kids Respect for Law

Teaching kids respect for the law is usually not a sit down and talk affair; it is more likely to be a monkey see monkey do thing. Respect for authority is learned unconsciously or imitated naturally by kids from parents and other caregivers in their young lives.

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There was this teenage girl I know who used to pocket pens in shop counters after signing a receipt. These are not spectacular pens but often scratchy worthless objects minutes away from their eternal rest in landfills. When asked why she did it, she just turned around and said, "But Daddy does it all the time!"

Respect For Other Cultures

Multicultural societies are the norm these days and this can sometimes ask for a great deal of broadmindedness in societies that have been traditionally more or less unicultural. It is only natural that various prejudices, misunderstandings, and xenophobic attitudes come to the fore in such societies contributing to racism. These feelings may even be termed instinctual reactions to what is commonly seen as the intrusion of the other. But civilized societies have to take a stand against racism and guard against it. Racism is basically a lack of understanding of a race other than one's own, and the reaction to this ignorance in the form of fear and anger. If we can replace this ignorance with understanding, then there's no room for those negative reactions.   

God and Spirituality--A Belief That Anchors

Whether you're a believer who practices some form of religion, or a non-believer, or neither, in the sense you couldn't care less about these things, you would be setting your child adrift on a turbulent ocean, if you have not inculcated in him a belief in a higher power—a power that supports, protects, calms, loves. 

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If you practice a religion and believe in it, you should pass on your beliefs to your children. If you don't follow or practice any form of organized religion, you owe it to yourself and to your kids, to develop your spirituality independent of any religious beliefs. Self-help books and religious texts help in this endeavour.

Since spirituality is often associated with organized religion, those that are disillusioned with the latter easily reject the former. Life's dramatic turns often tip us over the edge into questioning the existence of God and seek comfort in atheism. 

But if you are looking for an old man in the sky with a flowing beard armed with a scroll filled with your misdemeanours and a thunderbolt ready to strike random bad guys; you're right, he does not exist.

Organized religions are culpable to a certain extent in popularising such views in the public consciousness and labelling it God. 

If, on the other hand, we were to wonder as to the power that makes a bud bloom, the informed aesthetics that adds iridescence to a bird's wings and brings forth a rainbow where there was none, the wisdom that forms mountains and oceans and keeps the earth in its orbit for zillion years, the quiet contemplation of that power is prayer and the object of that prayer is God.

Spiritual development is possible in the structured environs of religion; it is also possible without it. But deciding it is not relevant or at least not as important as wealth or fame is a massive fallacy. 

Spirituality is also a kind of prosperity just as wealth and fame are. The only difference being that it is eternal while the other two are destructible and ephemeral in the larger scheme of things. 

Spirituality is also power, a resilience that will prevent you snapping in half when all around you are broken.

When young, kids have unlimited access to parents and caregivers when faced with problems. This ceases as they grow and if it is not replaced with another source of strength, they may succumb to feelings of helplessness and weakness. 

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Depending totally on your capabilities, wealth, or intelligence can make life an uphill task; whereas a firm belief in a benevolent higher power makes life that much more bearable and eminently livable.

Amazing Earth Facts and Kids-Teach Respect For the Earth

Our home planet is an awesome subject that will be of immense fascination for kids. Adults who take it for granted often fail to appreciate it and automatically pass this state of mind on to their children. It's never too late to start on a journey of discovery of this wonderful abodeof mountains, rivers, glaciers, oceans, forests, waterfalls, volcanoes, and canyons. Just think for a moment that all these amazing things are just air, earth, water, and fire in various combinations. 

Media, Entertainment, and Kids

Effect of media and entertainment on kids can be positive but unfortunately the negatives far outweigh the positives. Violence and children should ideally be on opposite poles but in reality the two have met and merged to dangerous levels. 

And this is mainly due to the violence in media and entertainment and its effects on kids. And this violence has an even more disastrous effect--the loss of respect for life. 

Teaching Children Respect For Others

Respect for others is an important lesson kids have to be taught, ideally, by their own parents. However, teaching kids respect is often not a priority in modern parenting. When kids learn to respect others it proportionately increases their own sense of self-worth and happiness. This has not been scientifically calculated as far as I know, but it is a known fact that when you respect others they accord you the same respect which in turn makes you feel good and appreciated. So, as unimportant as it may seem, it is still a good idea to teach your kids to treat others with respect and in turn expect the same from others.

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Respect for Children

It is equally important for your kids to be treated with respect. They should be taught from an early age to expect respectful and loving treatment from elders and others. This holds true especially when they start school. Bullying is a hallmark of kids who lack self-respect. If your child becomes a victim of bullies, it is an infringement of their right to respectful treatment in addition to the physical and mental trauma inflicted.

Take all measures necessary to ensure your little child is treated respectfully by other students and staff. If you find it is not possible for them to do so, remove your child from the situation. Broken bones may heal, but a broken spirit is a lifelong source of pain.

Respect for Others

Respect is an appreciation of the worth of another person. It is an esteem you feel and show, for a number of reasons. What matters is not the reason, but the emotion. It is easy to feel respect for sports persons, high achievers, national leaders, and sometimes even movie stars. But when it comes to closer home, or even in the community, there is a lack of respect for other members.

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Respect teaches

• Tolerance for Others
• Love for your Country
• Acceptance of Other Faiths
• Communal Harmony
• Healthy Appreciation of Different Cultures
• Caring for Elderly and Disabled

What Parents Can Do

Do not talk disrespectfully of family members, friends, acquaintances, school teachers, political figures, heads of states, sales clerks, spouse, in-laws, and neighbours within earshot of your kids. They pick up the sarcasm and apply it unconsciously, believing it's cool to be disrespectful. Rude, cheeky behaviour to peers and elders should be discouraged and explained as not acceptable.

Growing Without Respect

Rude kids, if unchecked, grow into rude adults. They are the ones that spread ill humour and ruin your day at check-out queues, on the streets, in public transport, sales counters, offices, and restaurants. Surely you, the parents,  don't want to contribute to that. So teach your kids the healthy habit of respect for others.